By Smith Nwokocha
11th February, 2022
TOPIC: THE CHEATING MIND!
HOST: DR. STEPHANIE OARHE.
After a Worship and Music Interlude; The Host, Dr. Stephanie Oarhe, said; “If you have a transformed mind, you will succeed in Marriage”.
GUEST SPEAKER: PST. WISDOM OSIRI (PhD)
Cheating is simply getting emotionally and physically attached to someone else. Pst. Wisdom Osiri.
SOME CLASS OF CHEATING:
a) Cyber-Cheating: Cheating Online. Dating Online, outside your Marriage. Phones are supposed to help us socialized, but now we extend our Socialization outside boundaries; Phones today, facilitate cheating, instead of helping us unite, it begins to separate us.
b) Emotional Affair: Infidelity, for example in the workplace; you move away from professional to personal relationship. What it does, is that, it causes temporary disconnection and then, you see yourself taking emotional attachment to someone else.
SIGNS TO KNOW WHEN YOUR PARTNER IS CHEATING?
- When your spouse begins to hide his/her phone(s).
- Change in physical look/appearance. Just know there is a chasing going on and then, the victim will begin to feel emotional distance/disconnect.
- When your spouse reduce intimacy.
- The moment your spouse becomes unusually busy/unnecessarily busy.
- Your spouse is no longer willing to work on the relationship, he/she becomes more secretive.
- Your spouse becomes more defensive.
- More excessively attached to appearance.
- YOUR INTUITION IS YOUR FRIEND
- Social Media changes, including change of password.
- Your spouse spending pattern changes
The moment you are connected to somebody else, you have to disconnect, to re-connect to another.
SOLUTIONS FOR CHEATS:
- Privacy: “Cheating is a thing of the MIND”. There is something deeper that has to be done, to correct the wrong. A Cheat has been cheating long ago, before even getting married and its like habit that feeds the neuron.
Two things motivate Man, the way God created us; PAIN and PLEASURE.
“YOU CANNOT PRAY YOURSELF OUT OF WHAT YOU BEHAVE YOURSELF INTO”.
“Human beings we are creatures of habits”.
In our subconscious, it takes a process to come out of ugly habits. But, the word of God has the capacity to change us. The word is perfect, it can convert the soul.
EMOTIONAL ATTACHMENT TO “EX” AFTER BEING MARRIED:
How To Cut Off Emotional Attachment from your EX; There are some EXs that are DESTRUCTIVE, while, there are some people you are supposed to marry and you eventually didn’t marry such persons; they are not bad influence.
Look at Cheating in two ways:
b) Discovery path
If that your EX was that GOOD, you should have married that EX. Start over and build a life with your spouse. The EX-thing has to end. The comparison with your EX has to end, if there is anything wrong, talk to your spouse.
SELFISHNESS; Once a need is not met, someone will begin to remember past, pointing to EX.
Phone Communication is key. There is a new language, which is “Love me the way I want”. But this new language keeps changing. There is a sacrifice part to Relationship. We need to train ourselves to get things right. Build Affection and Communication.
Expose yourself to the right influence and positive influence.
How you respond, is your own responsibility.
You can’t change people; you have to be the change you exalt.
Cheating on its own, have effects; Psychological torture in your mind.
STICK TO ONE PERSON FOR LIFE!
ADULTERY: “Once there is INFIDELITY, that Marriage is dead”. You have to re-marry your spouse to start-up.
Women are emotional/relational.
There is a cultural-birth, that Men cheat more than women. These days, the trend has changed, because women are rising in self-awareness. Women are advancing in different areas.
CHEATING IS BAD!
Statistics has shown that, most first-child/children are not usually from the Man/husband; It’s either the child is from the EX of the woman.
EMOTIONALLY ATTACHED TO A MARRIED MAN:
It is wrong, looking at a father. You wouldn’t want that for your daughter. Feed your mind on better things. “YOU SHOULD NOT BUILD YOUR JOY ON ANOTHER PERSON’S PAIN”.
‘’’THE MIND IS THE MOST POWERFUL SEX-ORGAN”.
“IF YOUR MIND CAN BE AFFECTED, YOUR LIFE CAN BE AMENDED”.. Pst. Wisdom Osiri.
“THE MIND IS THE MIRROR OF WHO YOU ARE”
“KEEP THE WORD OF GOD IN FOCUS”.. Dr. Stephanie Oarhe.
Stephanie Oarhe (Dr). Osiri Wisdom (Dr).
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