By Smith Nwokocha
TOPIC: DECIDING TO GET MARRIED AND DECIDING TO STAY IN MARRIAGE.
13TH FEBRUARY, 2022
HOST: TARIBO JOSEPH
SPECIAL GUEST: FREDA IDAHOSA-AJAYI
What are your expectations for Marriage?
Communication is so key. Spell out your expectations. How do you express yourself when you are sad, angry? Learn your partner. Do you support or leave him/her alone when he/she is angry?
- Understand each other’s Love language; It helps in communication.
Types of Love Language:
a) Access to Service
b) Quality Attention
c) Words of Affirmation
e) Physical Touch
Ask for Accountability Partner, before getting married. Ask questions. Your tone matters. Your language? Learn Communication Skills; Learn your partner. Your bed actions.
- Fighting Fair; Don’t burst into tears, when you are in an argument or fight with your partner. Don’t bring past relationship into your conversation. Have an honest conversation. Don’t use the following phrases:
a) You always
b) You never
The above phrases, communicate hopelessness. Picking your battles, like every argument is a war; I must win every argument, don’t make everything about YOU.
YOUR SPOUSE IS YOUR FRIEND HERE!
Men get creatives, when there is no pressure. Men are never going to be MIND-READERS! So, Communicate.
MEN’S GREATEST NEED IS “HONOUR”, NOT SEX. If you are being disrespectful to him, you will not get the best of him. Men love team work, friendship and communication on a very calm mood. He will not receive it, if you disrespect him. Confrontation tone does not work with men, friendship tone, honour tone makes it.
Your husband’s mother and you are parallel line; they don’t meet anywhere. So, give the mother the much respect and know you are not in competition with her.
Pray for your Spouse/Marriage daily.
Master Forgiveness constantly, in fact, master the act of not being offended. Freda Idahosa-Ajayi (Mrs).
Your Emotional Masseur